R & R: Getting Real & Relational - Naming The Shame and Breaking The Silence
Updated: Apr 23
"When we courageously name the shame, we
can get Real & Relational and begin to face what was concealed for so long. Unleashing deep secrets can lift a heavy weight and encourage the initial step on the road to recovery, freedom, support,
and healing." - Dr. Laura Clark
Pornography Addiction. Sexual Addiction. Abuse. Domestic Violence. Drug Addiction. Alcoholism. Anger. Depression. Anxiety. Suicide. Adultery. Trauma. Sexual Shame. Illness. Divorce. Hopelessness. Loss. Failure. Isolation. Rejection. Loneliness. You may feel overwhelmed while struggling to keep the thick mask on day after day, year after year, and not know where to turn. Behind the mask is a precious man or woman gripped with shame but has cultivated an outside appearance of happiness hoping no one will discern or see through the pain, stronghold, addiction, or condition of one's heart.
When we courageously name the shame, we can get Real & Relational and begin to face what was concealed for so long."
The messages modeled growing up have now become internalized and you tell yourself "Don't talk about it. Keep the family secrets. If I tell, I will be rejected." The mask becomes thicker and heavier over the years. You turn inward believing you are deceiving others and put on a false appearance and cover up your daily struggles. You hope no one will discover the real emotions of loneliness, heartache, pain, and depression you overwhelmingly feel in your heart. You fervently pray your misery will quickly disappear. Strongholds that are keeping people bound are widespread in society and the time to break the silence and unleash the secrets is now.
Denial and Silence
Often we experience warning signs, red flags, and discern something is not right in our relationships. We clasp tightly to denial, while fearing to face what is actually occurring and convince ourselves no one is looking behind closed doors, in the privacy of our homes, on our phones, tablets, or computers. We endlessly ache in shame and silence and struggle alone, which continues the vicious cycle that keeps us going back day after day to what is keeping us in bondage and preventing us from living the abundant life and walking in freedom. There is a silent war waging against our children, men, women, marriages, families, businesses, and the church. It has imprisoned minds and is continuing to destroy lives, marriages, and families from all walks of life and the time to name the shame is now.
"As we unleash our deep secrets, a heavy weight is lifted."
Whether you, your loved one, or someone you know is currently struggling with an addiction, stronghold, bondage, or secret never shared, you are not alone and it is time for you to get the love and support you deserve and break the shame and silence. May we raise up an army of warriors rooted and grounded in love of God who can walk alongside you in grace, mercy, compassion, forgiveness, hope, and healthy community. We are in a spiritual battle and our weapons of warfare are mighty through God to the pulling down of strongholds
(2 Corinthians 10:4).
Naming the shame and unleashing our secrets can be an initial step for many on the road to recovery, freedom, support, and authentic supportive community. You can experience heaven on earth and walk in God’s call on your life. God’s Word states “And you will know the truth and the truth will set you free” (John 8:32, NLT). Empowering You 2 Breakthrough and Break Free, Live the Abundant Life, and get "Real & Relational". You deserve God's best and nothing is impossible with God.